Felt true love throughout their marriage
Sometimes, I have clients who are in an unhappy marriage but are staying together because of sex except sex is Parents have many reasons for staying together, which can often seem illogical to outside observers but very logical to them. What drives the decision to stay together for sex? Is this the best way to think about the rest of your life? I have written about people who find a partner who is a good parent but who they are not compatible with, meaning that they never felt true love throughout their marriage. Still, their value of creating a strong family unit precedes their desire for romantic love. This is a subgroup of older people who choose to remain in an unfortunate marriage for their sex. They are so used to sacrificing their happiness for their sex that it seems no different than staying in an unhappy marriage, even when sex is out of the question. People in this situation are used to putting aside their own needs and desires to the point where they may not even know what those needs or desires are. The idea of making a decision that could disrupt their sex in any way because of their desires is foreign and even disgusting to them and utterly contrary to their concept of what a “relative” would do well. Another type of person who stays married for sex lives primarily for their involvement in a life of “sex” and “great sex.” The idea of Duty The holiday break is even more terrifying and disturbing for them. They have waited a long, unhappy life to hit the sweet spot of grandparents, and they have no intention of taking a second of that time because they have to share it with an ex-husband. These two types of people often overlap and share characteristics with people in what I call a depressed marriage. These people have been so unhappy with each other for so long and have seen similar dynamics in their family of origin that they don’t even know what it would be like to be happily married. The endemic conflict and/or disconnection in their marriage seem to be the only way to live, and they can’t conceive of a world in which they feel happy or even companionate. Therefore, wasting time with their children to perform sex and/or undress seems like a terrible sacrifice with no guaranteed benefit.
